Knowledge that empowers you to make positive life choices   October 8, 1998

After all, if you can't love and respect yourself, how can you love and respect those around you?


"Boundaries" is a roadmap away from Bible based truth.   September 9, 1998
  28 out of 45 found this review helpful

"Boundaries" is a book filled with ideas and practices that will lead the reader off of the road of true faith and belief in God. It violates the following four essentials of the faith: 1. The deity of God is attacked in "Boundaries": The authors portray God as having needs for relationship, needs for self-protection, and being unstable in His plans, thoughts and actions, such that we are encouraged to "change God's mind" through prayer. 2. The person and work of Jesus Christ is misrepresented; the authors portray Jesus as capable of sin and failure, unsubmissive to His earthly parents and handicapped in His inability to respond in anger to those who 'violated' Him. 3. The Word of God, the Bible, is misquoted and misapplied with incredible frequency, from Genesis to 2:18 to Matthew 18 (most grievously) the authors show a gift for exegetical rather than contextual teaching. This is a trait used by cults, and "Boundaries" has very cultic leanings. 4. The person and work of the Holy Spirit is exempted completely from the text. There is not a single mention in the entire text of living a life according to the direction and empowerment of the Holy Spirit. This is a stunning denial of the full truth of the Gospel of Grace. The authors refer to Galatians 5:22 as listing the "Fruits of Self Control." How can self-control be a fruit of self control? The book boundaries is (at best) heretical in it's approach to interpretation and application of the Bible. Upon closer inspection, it approaches cultic manipulation with deadly proximity. Do not be fooled by the endorsements on the reverse cover; Howard Hendricks and Josh McDowell did not read this book - as Biblical scholars, they could not have read the book and endorsed it as such. Avoid this book if you are seeking to live a life according to the Word of God and the leading of the Holy Spirit. And remember - tell your friends to avoid it like the plague.


This book will change your life.   July 24, 1998
  1 out of 1 found this review helpful

I don't go around saying this about books, but this book really has changed my life. It has changed the way that I see my relationships, and really helped me to understand where my responsibilities end and others' begin. I would heartily recommend it to any Christian (or non-Christian -- but be aware that it is written from a Christian perspective) who has a hard time knowing when to say "no", or who has been used and abused by others.


Life changing. Life giving. Life growing.   July 20, 1998
  15 out of 16 found this review helpful

Whether it's your family, friends, spouse, children, work, yourself, or God, Boundaries will clarify many human mysteries. It will broaden your understanding of yourself and how you relate to others. I highly recommend the companion workbook. It emphasizes points that might have been missed. I've read "Your Perfect Right" and Dale Carnegie's book "How To Win Friends and Influence People." Although these books were helpful, nothing will compare to the impact Boundaries will make with all your relationships.


Ever wonder why your life doesn't work no matter what?   July 14, 1998
  0 out of 2 found this review helpful

This book will help you to identify exactly why. It will help you identify what you are, and are NOT responsible for, and how to not confuse them. This book has brought a new peace to my life such as I have fought all my life for, but never knew. Required reading for my friends. This book also helps the reader to avoid "guilt" messages, and other manipulations of hurtful people who need to have limits set on their harmful behavior. It helps the reader to realize that setting boundaries is not "criticizing" the offender, and how to respond when the offender makes like it is the hurt person who sets limits that does wrong. This book receives my personal, Gold plated, five star recommendation. My highest possible ranking.