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| Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't | 
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Avg. Customer Rating:  (based on 42 reviews)
Sales Rank: 3882
Category: Book
Authors: Henry Cloud, John Townsend
Publisher: Zondervan
Studio: Zondervan
Manufacturer: Zondervan
Label: Zondervan
Languages: English (Original Language), English (Unknown), English (Published)
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 208
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.4
Dimensions (in): 7.8 x 5.1 x 0.6
ISBN: 0310210844
Dewey Decimal Number: 248.4
UPC: 025986210847
EAN: 9780310210849
ASIN: 0310210844
Publication Date: November 1, 1996
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 not what you think it is February 8, 2008
2 out of 6 found this review helpful
I was looking forward to reading this book and when I started to read it I realized it was a religious book disquised as a different type of book. I am very disapointed and might send it back. Be aware.
 Safe People January 18, 2008
1 out of 3 found this review helpful
Everyone should read this book to identify safe and unsafe people. I saw myself in the book as an unsafe person. I am working to correct that through God's help.
personal growth guide November 5, 2007
1 out of 2 found this review helpful
This is a great guide for small-group growth, dealing with childhood and adult wounds, and how to avoid toxic relationships. It is a practical guide that goes further that the late Scott Peck's book, People of the Lie.
I can say it has helped me in my professional life as well.
One of the best books I've ever read July 17, 2007
4 out of 5 found this review helpful
This book is one of the best books I've ever read on why I was attracting unsafe people and how to find safe ones and the importance of evaluating character.
The first story was amazing since I think I dated that very girl Dr. Townsend wrote about. The girl that says one thing and then does another. On the next page, they discuss their concern when college kids tell them they want a Christian spouse who is spiritual, religious, and funny. It concerns them, because when people come for marriage counseling, those aren't the reasons, but rather character issues like listening, working too much, and not being attentive to each other.
The characteristcs of unsafe people next provides a great way to evaluate the people in your life.
Next, they discuss why you are choosing unsafe people. It really cuts to the nitty gritty of your past. They then go through a number of false solutions that a lot of us attempt, including doing too much and giving to others. I know I can be a perfectionist sometimes, causing me to reject potentially safe people, filling the void with unsafe ones.
I really appreciated the next sections pointing out that safe people are everywhere. It says that we can learn OUR unsafe people through our safe people who will tell us.
Finally, the last chapter, Repair or Replace. They discuss how to mend a broken relationship, though those steps have never worked for me. But they sound nice to me.
As a person with many friends in their twenties, I see a lot of people who do not have enough safe people in their lives, causing them to make poor choices. I recommend this book as much as possible to them.
EVERYONE needs to read this book! June 19, 2007
5 out of 6 found this review helpful
This is my 2nd book written by Dr Henry Cloud and its just as excellent at the other (boundaries in marriage). This book is NOT for persons in dangerous relationships anymore than an asprin will help your broken bones.
However, this book WILL help you reconnect with the basic fundamental idea that society has been drilling out of us since we were small.. We all really DO NEED PEOPLE in our lives. Self sufficiency is not what God had in mind for us. He built us to need eachothers company/attention/love/time and some very unhappy things happen inside us when we don't get that from others. This book helps identify how that can effect us and shows us how to find people who are safe to share who we are. This book is for you and for me.
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