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| On Becoming Childwise: Parenting Your Child from 3-7 Years | 
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Avg. Customer Rating:  (based on 35 reviews)
Sales Rank: 1013250
Category: Book
Authors: Gary Ezzo, Robert Bucknam
Publisher: Parent - Wise Solutions, Inc.
Studio: Parent - Wise Solutions, Inc.
Manufacturer: Parent - Wise Solutions, Inc.
Label: Parent - Wise Solutions, Inc.
Format: Bargain Price
Language: English (Published)
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 261
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.6
Dimensions (in): 8.1 x 5.2 x 0.7
Dewey Decimal Number: 649
ASIN: B001F0RA7U
Publication Date: November 2001
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Product Description
As a child moves beyond the toddler years, new challenges arise for parents. Be prepared for this exciting stage with fifteen "Childwise" principles for training children ages 3-7 in happy and responsible living.
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 Good Ideas; Not a Handbook January 5, 2009
I just finished this book and I'm happy I bought it. Because I bought it at a consignment store for a small price, I feel like I got a good deal. I will start by saying I don't believe there is a "God's Way" to raise a child, at least not one for which a human being is expert. The authors clearly do believe in a "God's Way" the way they interpret it. But I do like the principles of child raising that this book is based on. A few of them are: "Parent now, be friends later"; "Other people count"; "To teach a virtue, one example (you) is better than a thousand lectures"; and "Constantly reminding a child to do what is expected only means you have no expectations."
I started out raising my now-three-year-old son following a lot of attachment parenting principles. I still love some of these principles. However, over the months and years I found that using a little more structure with him brought better results for me, him, and my husband. I learned that my son really does need parental guidance and that solely following his cues was a little too chaotic and he did not necessarily learn all the things I wanted him to know. (Exception: With infants you must pay careful attention to their cues and, of course, medical expertise.)
One of the parts I liked best in this book was the idea of having your child say, "Yes, Mommy," or "Yes, Daddy," after you call for them or ask them to do something. This accomplishes two things: the child commits to doing what you've asked and therefore is accountable if they choose to disobey, and it contributes to respectful communication. I would like my child to have choices occasionally, but I don't think it's helpful for him, me, or society at large if he gets into a habit of yelling "No!" at me when he doesn't like a certain choice. There are some things that a parent must decide, for safety's sake if nothing else. At times when he can choose whether or not he wants something, it is courteous for him to say "No, thank you," (rather than the petulant tone of voice so often used) and use good manners. The only way for him to learn good manners is for someone to teach him and consistently reinforce the habit.
Another part I liked was the illustration of how to teach a child the appropriate way to interrupt a conversation. With this information, a child can still get the attention of a parent in the midst of an ongoing adult conversation but do it in a way that does not rudely interrupt the person talking.
My third favorite part of the book is the advice about transferring responsibility for children's tasks and chores from parent to child. This is hard to do at first because it's easier for the child (in the short term) if you will assume final responsibility for their chores being completed. Many, many parents have experienced the amount of work it takes to have responsibility for the whole household! This section gives a practical strategy for keeping the responsibility on the child's shoulders (in an age-appropriate way).
Overall, the book has too few practical tips and strategies. If all sections were written like my favorite three parts (above), I would give this book a much higher rating. Another factor is that I don't agree with everything the authors say your children should do. For example, I don't think it's quite as big a deal whether or not children call everybody "Mr." and "Mrs." Children can be courteous and well-liked without doing this. If you want your children to grow into polite, compassionate, respectful, thinking human beings, I think you can get something out of this book. Read it, but only if you are able take what you like from it and leave the rest.
 Helpful Tips November 20, 2008
I really enjoyed this book. It is a wonderful and practical parenting resource. It was encouraging to read it as it re-enforces the vision at our church and gives many of the same principles and tips.
Spot On May 21, 2008
This book has been life changing for me and my family. My only regret is not reading this book sooner. My life as a parent has gotten easier and more rewarding since applying the principles in this book. My six year old is taking on more responsibilities because I am now educated on how to transfer tasks to him. He gets himself ready for school without me having to nag him over and over again ( brush your teeth, wash your hands, get dressed, get your back pack, etc.). My 2 year old who used to like coming into my room at 5:30 AM is now sleeping in her bed until I come in to get her at an appropriate time in the morning (she is doing this because she now realizes that mommies and daddies don't like be woken up in the middle of the night, just like she wouldn't like to be woken up - treat others how you want to be treated). Best of all both of my kids are on the right path to becoming empathetic, caring citizens not selfish little twits.
 Not a bad book but very basic March 14, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
This book was a good review on basic child development and the use of schedules. Not what I was looking for. I like Love & Logic and How To Discipline with Love much better for parenting ideas. I am not much on structuring your whole day and life for kids.
 I can't believe it's still out there..... March 12, 2008
0 out of 6 found this review helpful
Please be very careful if you "must" give this book any consideration. It is dangerous, divisive and in many ways...UN-Christ-like! There are MANY better sources out there by Dr. Dobson, Dr. Sears and Dr. Brazelton.
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