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Category: Book
Authors: Gary Ezzo, Robert Dr Bucknam
Publisher: Multnomah Books
Studio: Multnomah Books
Manufacturer: Multnomah Books
Label: Multnomah Books
Languages: English (Unknown), English (Original Language), English (Published)
Media: Paperback
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.6
Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.2 x 0.6
ISBN: 1576734587
UPC: 007728239217
EAN: 9781576734582
ASIN: 1576734587
Publication Date: May 1, 1998
Release Date: May 1, 1998
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Every parent who has welcomed a child into the world understands the longing to find a way to teach their baby to sleep contentedly and continually. This book is an exciting infant management plan that suc-cessfully trains children to sleep through the night. from a bounty hunter in this novel for 10-14 years olds.en.tudy today.
Amazon.com Review
Theologian Gary Ezzo and pediatrician Dr. Robert Bucknam set off cries of alarm in their highly controversial 1995 publication On Becoming Baby Wise by arguing that some crying is natural and healthy for babies. In this updated edition, Ezzo and Bucknam present a comprehensive method to encourage a full night's sleep for the seven- to nine-week-old baby. It's easy to read, easy to follow, supported by research and by testimonials from parents and pediatricians, and includes suggestions for making the process fit into the reader's lifestyle. The authors believe a consistent sleep routine leads to happier, more responsible, and better-adjusted children. But a full night's sleep is just the short-term goal. The long-term goal is training parents to bring order and stability to their families through nurturing the marriage, providing a loving structure for one's children, and allowing flexibility in the process. Twelve chapters cover feeding philosophies, monitoring baby's growth, establishing baby's routine, handling multiple births, and the ever-controversial chapter on when baby cries. The 52-week method involves four phases, beginning with "Stabilization" from birth to week 8. During weeks 9 through 15 ("Extended Night"), babies learn to sleep through the night. Ezzo and Bucknam attempt to teach the difference between a baby's many cries and advise parents on various responses to these cries. Critics dislike Ezzo's strong belief that "child-centered parenting" (feeding baby whenever it cries, sleeping with and "wearing" baby) fosters demanding, insecure toddlers. But for parents who are tired of being tired--or whose previous experience with child-centered parenting supports Ezzo's theory--it may be worth a read. --Liane Thomas
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 Most of this book is good - use what you need January 9, 2009
My wife and I read this book and applied many of its suggestions. I really agree with the philosophy of your children becoming part of the family and not ruling it. I would recommend this book to any new parents.
 not for children who were adopted (Please!) November 8, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
we used this book faithfully during the first year+ for our 4 month old adopted son. (also toddler wise and child wise) He is now almost four and we are having serious attachment issues. I know there are many good areas of this book, specifically keeping kids on a schedule, but please read and use attachment books and therapy with your adopted children (exclusively or in addition to this book). Believe me, you don't want to experience what we are going through right now.
Very Common-Sense Advice November 7, 2008
I read this book while pregnant and have used it from day one with my son. I have been a nanny for years and all the advice the author gives is extremely common sense, it's exactly the same advice your Grandma would give. Recently I found a lot of extreme opposition to this book and cannot understand why except that he does not agree with attachment parenting philosophies. I also don't agree with attachment parenting because there is no medical or psychological basis for the theories behind it and in my experience it produces insecure, immature children.
A lot of the myths surrounding Babywise are based on misquoting the book and on the supposed character of the author. The book does not push a 3 hour schedule. It advocates putting the events of a baby's day in the proper order (eat, activity, sleep) to disassociate feeding and sleeping so that infants don't develop a bad habit of nursing to sleep. The book does advocate a schedule later on (4 weeks and up), but tells parents that they need to create their own schedule based on their baby's hunger patterns, the family life, and the baby's sleep needs. A lot of the advice in this book is echoed in other books that are not attacked, such as "The Baby Whisperer" and there are even similarities with Dr. Sear's books.
Having used this from day one with my son and comparing him to other babies his age, I definitely think the book gives very sound advice! My son rarely cries and has been sleeping 10 1/2 hours since 9 weeks old. He goes down for naps easily and is a joy to be around, even for babysitters we've had.
The critics of the book often point out the "crying is normal" idea in the book as evidence of something wrong with it. But the AAP even says that 15 minutes of crying will not harm a baby at all. And, for all the opposition to crying, it seems like babies raised by attachment parenting ideals often cry a lot more than normal babies. They cry when they're hungry, because their parents are waiting for them to "demand" to be fed. They cry when they're tired, because their parents never taught them to fall asleep on their own. Babywise babies don't need to cry for their needs to be met, because their parents have already done the work ahead of time to get to know their particular babies and create a stable, consistent environment where their needs will be addressed before they become urgent demands.
Their are also wild claims about it causing "failure to thrive". However, the whole concept behing the book is Parent-Directed Feeding. If parents aren't understanding basic hunger cues and feeding their child, that is because they are stupid and irresponsible, not because the book they happened to read gave bad advice. Those parents must have been looking for a scapegoat when they got a call from CPS because their baby was not growing well. If you read the book, you will see that there is no way that someone following Gary Ezzo's advice could not feed their child enough.
Overall, it's a wonderful book and I recommend it to friends all the time!
The Critiques are Inflamatory September 23, 2008
I used this book for my first child and he was sleeping 6 hours a night from 3 months old. Every single mom that I know who uses it loves it. It is flexible and practicle and realistic for our changing schedules.
He does NOT encourage you to let your child cry it out until they are 3 months old. Even then he says to let them cry for 5 minutes then go and check on them and then 10 minutes and go check on them then 15 minutes then check on them. This is not barbaric and is very short-lived. Most moms that I know only had to let their child cry it out for 2-3 nights.
THAT's IT! You know what happens after that? Your child learns to self soothe and gets more sleep, not to mention your own sleep. RESULT: Everybody is happier :) Moms that I know who co-slept from the start regret it by a few months old. Imagine a todler in your bed. There is no scientific basis to the "Attachement Style of Parenting". I know this because my husband is a social psych professor.
My son slept for 8 hours by 5 months after losing the binky and now at 2.5 years old sleeps 12 hours and has since he was 0 months old. Doesn't that sound nice? He is one fo the happiest, most socil and confident children you will meet, people comment on this all the time.
Get the book- if you read the whole thing and still think it's not for you, then that's your choice.
 Sanity saver September 18, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
I foolishly thought the advise in 'What to expect..' was the only way to go. It made sense to me as I was about to be a first time mother.
A child can't be spoiled by being held too much.
Every time the infant shows hunger cues, feed him. Fist sucking, crying is a late cue. I was always feeding him. *Turns out our son was trying to suck his thumb, but was too young to stick it out and keep it steady.
My husbands family used/uses Baby Wise and had recommended it to me before my son's birth. Boy should I have listened. At 2 1/2 months my son and I were a complete wreck!!
The constant holding and soothing all day long made a child that cried whenever he was put down. Or cried when repositioned a couple inches to make the person holding him more comfortable.
The demand feeding made me completely "available" to him at all times.
He was exhausted and fussy all the time!
It wasn't working for either of us. I ran out and found a copy of Baby Wise. Within days our lives were better. The biggest change for us was reversing the order eat/wake/sleep. We don't write down the times that each step is supposed to happen. We write down the times they did, so that we can see what his possible needs are. Flex is the key. This happy giggly baby emerged.
I can leave my son with his dad- no bottle needed. I used to dread getting in the shower because my son would wake up screaming mid way through...the list goes on...well, not anymore.
I didn't do this flex schedule for selfish reasons; it wasn't all about making his life convenient for me. He was miserable!!
Naps enable him to enjoy several hours a day set aside for his entertainment/development. I can't say it enough that flex is the key. If he wants to spend his "wake time" in the swing dozing on and off; it's all good. If a snack is needed after play time it's given. His needs are never ignored to keep the schedule. I'm way more intune to my son with PDF than demand feeding.
I hope that someone looking for answers doesn't pass this method up because of the negative reviews. Frankly, I would have if I'd read them before using it.
Happy healthy (95% in all catagories) baby = happy family
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